Tag: family traditions

  • Discovering Family Treasures: Insights into the 1930s Through My Paternal Grandparents’ Journeys

    Discovering Family Treasures: Insights into the 1930s Through My Paternal Grandparents’ Journeys

    Paternal grandmother Daisy Shanks Wead was the president of the bridge club in 1934

    Historical newspapers remain one of my favorite starting points when I am curious about what life was like for my ancestors. While perusing the newspapers.com, I found a series of articles about my paternal grandmother and grandfather. My grandmother was a co-organizer of a bridge club in Omaha, Nebraska, in the early 1930s. Who knew? Surely, not my Dad, Rodney Wead, who is the oldest son to Daisy and Samuel Luster Wead. My Dad is also a bridge player as was his father who also started a bridge group in Omaha.

    I did not know that both grandparents were ardent bridge players. It helps to further add texture and shape their lives within our memories of them during the Jim Crow era of racial discrimination in the United States, even in the Midwestern areas.

    Yet, I remain appreciative of newspapers for serving a vital role in preserving the scattered facts of our collective family’s histories. For African Diasporan and Indigenous Americans, newspapers were essential in extending facts that often were jumbled or omitted.

    ‘Read all about it’

    Let’s take a closer look at some of the unique features of historical newspapers.

    1. The authenticity of the content: These are not just random pictures or generic stories. These are real, untampered artifacts from my family history. This adds a personal touch and a deeper level of connection with the readers.
    2. A slice of life: Through these photographs and even letters that I discovered, I got a slice of life from the 1930s – a time when the world was on the brink of a major change. The post captures the simplicity and the small joys of everyday life in a way that is both mesmerizing and eye-opening.
    3. Lessons and values: Beyond the nostalgia and the historical value, the short articles featuring my grandmother, grandfather and their friends, delves into the lessons and values that my grandparents passed down to me. From generosity to resilience to gratitude to love for family, these are timeless principles that still hold relevance in our lives today.

    Grandma and Grandpa’s hands

     

    The articles featured in this post and other similar reports on the ladies’ and gentlemen’s bridge games are more than the short articles reveal.  It’s about the journeys of two African Americans gaining their form of notoriety received from having their names in the newspapers. Those were the days when newspapers were the “gospel” and rarely were there good features in the mainstream media about the pleasant lives of African Americans. These articles, however, were in a time limited African American owned newspaper, the Omaha Guide.

    I paused and imagined being in my grandparents’ space and watching them win their respective bridge game.  I was fortunate to see my grandfather play bridge and I can still hear the laughter and slapping of cards on the table as they enjoyed snacks and drinks. I transported to a different time and place in thinking about their fun times. I could feel the emotions, the joy in their hosting duties with their respective bridge club.

    I urge you to reconnect with your own family history and discover the untold stories and memories that lie dormant. It’s an opportunity to honor our roots and the people who came before us, who have contributed to making us who we are today. So join me on this journey to 1934, and let’s uncover the “Precious Finds” together. My Dad was born in 1935 and the newspaper clippings about my grandmother’s bridge games came to a screeching halt to make room for the article listing the birth of a son to his parents. 

  • Discovering Your Family’s Roots: Mastering the Art of Interviewing Relatives for Family Ancestry Stories

    Discovering Your Family’s Roots: Mastering the Art of Interviewing Relatives for Family Ancestry Stories

    Uncle Ernest Wilks
    Army Vet and Maternal Great Uncle Ernest Wilks (second right) and his band in Hawaii

    Gotta love the family stories!

    I’ve interviewed CEOs, community activists, a future U.S. Supreme Court justice, and lots of individuals who were skeptical of media members. It’s an art and a science to prepare for such sessions with individuals who are new acquaintances willing to share parts of their life stories to public audiences.

    Yet, no academic and OJT prepared me for asking personal questions of relatives to learn more about our family.

    “How did you and grandpa meet?” “What was it like to grow up in the Delta of Arkansas and witness the bloody riots in the early 1900s?” “Who are you named for?” “Did you really beat up a woman who knew your husband?” “Why didn’t you ever learn to drive?” “How did you celebrate Christmas when you were a child?”

    Maternal great-grandmother Edna Wilks Robinson
    Maternal great-grandmother Edna Robinson

    Those are just a small sample of questions that I posed to my various family members. Their answers helped to connect the dots for me as I sought to uncover my family’s history. Like other African American families, our stories are mostly spotty and tough to easily put together. That’s why getting as much information from your relatives is imperative to completing your legacy findings.

    The art of the interviews

    The holidays and other special days are great times to listen to the conversations among family members. That’s the first tip: listen to what is being said and not said among your family member.

    Next, build upon the unanswered questions and ask questions. You may not get the answers you are seeking, yet you will get information, great stories, and usually surprises. Be as prepared as you able to be to receive unexpected surprise information. It helps if you can capture an audio recording. Some relatives, especially the older ones, are not as adverse to taped recordings as I once believed. They are actually the best ones to interview about family stories. Remember that great interviews are complimented by photographs. Take a lot of pictures that feature faces.

    Remember to be patient and expect to complete interviews over a span of time. It could be two days or even two years to gather the information you are seeking from family members.

    Pro tips

    • Prepare Thoughtful Questions
      Try to avoid the obvious awkward questions for starters.  Prepare open-ended questions to encourage storytelling. Ask about childhood memories, family traditions, and historical events they witnessed.
    • Find a Comfortable Setting
      Family stories often flow best in a relaxed environment.
    • You have to be a Great, Active Listener
      While you may have specific topics you want to cover, allow the conversation to naturally flow. Try to avoid interrupting unless necessary.
    • How to Handle Sensitive Topics
      Be mindful of how difficult, even painful that family experiences could be for your loved one. Acknowledge their feelings, respect their boundaries, and take a break.

    Preserving cultural and emotional history

    No matter what happens as you gather family stories, remember that you are recording precious history that perhaps no one will gather. You are preserving and documenting these stories, and thereby help your future generations.

    Contact me before or after you interview your relatives. Between my lived experiences and pro tips, I am here to help @weadwriteawayandgenealogy@gmail.com.